3 rules for a second date
The first date is always a little chaotic. You just get to know each other, talk a lot, take timid, indecisive steps, are shy and feel awkward. But, if you agreed to a second date, then most likely you concluded for yourself that the person is worth the effort and one more evening to get to know him better. The development of relationships after meeting is a kind of numbers game, confirmation that with each date, feelings become stronger, and the connection becomes more interesting. So, the basic rules of the second date.
Diversify your meetings, change the environment, place and time on the second date. Whatever you come up with, don’t make the second date an exact copy of the first. It’s time to prove how well your imagination is developed. If you dined at a restaurant and went to the movies on your first date, go to an amusement park or water park on your second date. Turn your meetings into mini-adventures that are as interesting and fun as possible.
On the second date, you will get the opportunity to see each other in different situations. For example, while playing golf or riding a damn merry-go-round, your companion may react to events in such an interesting way that she will reveal a new and unexpected side to you. You will evaluate whether a person is able to laugh at himself, how optimistic he is, how he behaves in an extreme situation.
In any case, you will get the opportunity to see the reaction, and this can ultimately tell how a person will perform in the future as a partner. In addition, if a girl finds a second date boring, she will automatically perceive your acquaintance as a monotonous, unremarkable event, and, therefore, an event not worth her attention.
Don’t make the second date too romantic. The second date rule says: if a girl didn’t give herself to you in a fit of passion on the first date, there is little chance of getting anything more than a kiss on the second. Usually everything happens on the third (if you try hard) or a little later.
On the first date, you were just getting to know each other. The third date, just, should become a vessel of romance and passionate confessions. And the second meeting is an occasion to have fun, enjoy the carelessness of your only nascent feelings.
Give her a chance to present her vision of your relationship, a rehearsal of how you can pass the time in the future (when you get to know each other too closely). Also, since you feel more comfortable and relaxed on the second date, there is an opportunity to ask some personal questions that you were embarrassed to ask on the first date. Learn about relationships with parents, ask about love for children and animals.
The second date is too early to meet friends and especially parents. Inspired feelings after the first date can cause a burning desire to invite your best friend or girlfriend to a second meeting to boast in front of them what a beauty you have won. But this can ruin everything.
You still know each other too little to expand your mutual circle of friends with someone else. As for getting to know the family, the second date is too rash a date for this. A woman (or a man) may perceive this as a rapid development of a relationship. It can scare and alert, make you wonder what goals you are pursuing, or even give false hope. In any case, getting to know relatives is a kind of introduction of your soulmate into the family, but a second date is by no means a reason for this.
You can learn a lot about a person on a second date, you can tell them a lot more about yourself. If all goes well, a second date is sure to lead to a third, and so on, until your relationship naturally moves to the next level. In the meantime, it’s time to enjoy each other and a carefree second date!
What if the purpose of the relationship is something unconditional for which both the man and the woman could take responsibility? What if this is… the practice of love? Love is what is within us; something for which we are responsible in both good and bad times. Love allows us to focus on our own efforts and responsibilities, as well as to notice the advantages of our partner. Too many people focus on taking something from the relationship. But, for a harmonious relationship, you need to give, take responsibility for your happiness, and then “invest" it in others.