Why do men humiliate women
“If he beats, then he loves," women console themselves, wiping away tears and smearing bruises with foundation. What makes men inflict moral and physical pain on the representatives of the weaker sex, humiliate and insult their life partners?
The reasons for this behavior may vary. In most cases, such "domestic tyrants" are obtained from men who cannot boast of a particularly high status. But inside every male (be it a cat, a man or even a swordfish) lives the desire to become the “leader of the pack”. Therefore, those who cannot realize their ambitions in society prove their "strength and masculinity" in the family, demonstrating in every possible way "who is in charge here." At the same time, the desire to “trample in the mud” becomes especially strong when a man feels that a woman is superior to him in some way: smarter, more successful at work, more active, and so on.
Another reason men humiliate women is the fear of losing her. Representatives of the stronger sex are deep down sure that if you convince your spouse that she is a stupid, fat, worthless and useless woman, who no one wants to live next to (except him, such a noble and philanthropic one), the woman will not dare to leave him. And he only needs this: so that she doesn’t go anywhere and is forever grateful that he made her, miserable, happy. Surprisingly, this strategy often works, and husbands actually succeed in lowering their spouse’s self-esteem.
All of the above is typical, first of all, for men with wounded pride, who take out their complexes and resentments on the world on women. But sometimes quite mentally healthy and quite successful men, nevertheless, arrange “Italian scandals” with their beloved wives with deadly insults and assault. Why do they need it?
Perhaps, in such cases, upbringing is to blame. After all, little boys from childhood are taught to restrain emotions: after all, men do not cry and generally do not show outwardly their feelings. But they, if anything, fight and swear. It turns out that aggression – physical or psychological – becomes for many the only way to "let off steam." And then whoever fell under the arm is to blame.
What if the purpose of the relationship is something unconditional for which both the man and the woman could take responsibility? What if this is… the practice of love? Love is what is within us; something for which we are responsible in both good and bad times. Love allows us to focus on our own efforts and responsibilities, as well as to notice the advantages of our partner. Too many people focus on taking something from the relationship. But, for a harmonious relationship, you need to give, take responsibility for your happiness, and then “invest” it in others.