SAVE THE FAMILY FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN
This question worries many people who are on the verge of divorce. On the one hand, living in the same territory with an unloved person is already fed up, and on the other hand, the stereotype that says that “a child should have a complete family" crushes, otherwise he will grow up unhappy. We have to endure. The spring is compressed more and more, but there is a limit to everything …
The thing is that you need to maintain not the appearance of a family, but warm relations between its participants. When parents lack emotional intimacy and mutual understanding, and the home atmosphere is saturated with mutual disgust, hatred and lies, then there is no point in preserving the “family”. Actually, there is nothing to save – you still have to live to see a family, and many give up without going through all the mandatory grinding.
Divorce and children
Children very subtly feel all the nuances of the mood of their parents, and if they are forced to live together, experiencing a strong desire to escape, then they (children) suffer very much because of this. And in adulthood, two scenarios await them: either fear of family life due to the lack of a positive example in childhood, or the same, unfulfilled coexistence.
More than 90% of children who grew up in such a “family” sincerely do not understand why their parents did not separate – after all, it would be better for everyone. And parents, in turn, often unconsciously blackmail them with guilt: “It’s because of you that I have to endure, now you owe me” …
If it is not possible to reanimate relations with your spouse, you should consult a psychologist who will help the ex-husband and wife maintain friendly relations after a divorce – observing normal human relations between parents and feeling their love for themselves, the child will be happy, and his psyche will remain healthy. After all, the main thing in life is happiness, and it stubbornly refuses to accept the rejection of its true desires. Even for another person.