When we are 20 years old, we are sure that we know everything about sex. When 30 – there are new questions. We celebrated 15 years of marriage and we know it’s not true that sex in a long marriage is boring and routine. What do we know now about ourselves, about each other, about our relationships? Add to the list!

1 We used to be sure of the fragility of the male psyche

One young woman, after several years of relationship, did not dare to ask her beloved: their sex lasts so unbearably long each time – because he cannot finish faster or because he thinks that girls like it longer? It seemed to her that it was only necessary to use the words “sex" and “cannot” in one sentence – as the abysses of heaven would immediately open up, and the young man would receive a moral trauma for life. now this woman knows for sure – a normal man is happy and grateful for any questions, requests and recommendations in this area. Especially if you are sure of your love.

2 We Know First Sex With A New Partner Can Be… Not So

And even the first five sexes with a new partner may not even be so hot at all. And the most important and pleasant thing is that our partners also know this. And we can calmly wait until the first excitement and grinding has passed in order to get the most delicious sex in our lives – for the next forty years, and if we’re lucky, then for fifty.

3 Scientists are on our side: they are convinced that sex, like fine wine, only gets better with age.

So, 46% of men and women believe that their sex life peaked when they were 40 years old. The advantage of forty-year-old lovers over twenty-year-olds is undeniable – they really know what they want from their intimate life.

4 We don’t bet too much on sex anymore

And we act, as in that joke: it didn’t work out – well, that means we’ll laugh and bang. And from this, many succeed – much more often, better and more incendiary than at twenty.

5 We simply know more

And we can enjoy more. And our men suddenly began to agree to even the most amazing sexual practices. And if they haven’t yet, they’re about to agree. Or just waiting for our offer.

6 At the same time, we managed to realize that this fire does not always have to burn with a bright flame

Its intensity can be very variable throughout a couple’s life. Sometimes it flares up so that it scorches the eyelashes and apartments of neighbors, and sometimes it smolders barely noticeably. Some periods replace others, the same couple can have sex both five times a day – in one period of life, and once every two weeks – in another. And the latter usually does not mean anything bad, does not mean that we had a fight or that he no longer wants me. It’s just that this is such a period, the next one will follow it, as wave after wave on the sea follows.

7 After it’s over, your husband may turn away and fall asleep (even snore) – and this will not be "impolite" and will not offend you.

And you can immediately after an orgasm go make yourself a huge sandwich and eat it right in bed – and do not be shy about crumbs and mayonnaise "mustache". Because sex is still the same intimate and very emotional activity, but there are no longer so many rules, conventions and ceremonies around it.

8 One day we discover our first gray hair

And he’s not on his head! And immediately become fans of Brazilian hair removal.

9 We Found The New Series Of ‘Game Of Thrones’ Is More Interesting Than Sex

Not only for us, but also for my husband. However, this is wonderful – what could be better than reciprocity and harmony! And a good movie at night

10 Now we can play a joke on the desires and fantasies of a partner – and not offend him with this.

Husband wants you to dress up as a vicious nurse – the perfect reason for teasing …

11 We understand now that books are lying

And there is no special "flourishing of female sexuality after thirty".

12 We can have sex whenever we want

In the morning, before work, when we are both sleepy, disheveled and not at all “glossy”? You are welcome. In the evening, tired, thinking: “Or is it better to sleep an extra hour?” On a day off, when the morning stretches endlessly, does the kitchen already smell of coffee? And so too. We are not too busy for sex and are even ready to set the alarm clock half an hour earlier.

13 We Realized: To Feel Sexy We Can’t Get Enough Of Lace Panties And A Fresh Haircut Anymore

Now for this you have to lead a healthy lifestyle, and this is not a joke: the more we move and visit a fitness club more often, the better we sleep and choose healthy food more responsibly, the less we smoke, the better it affects the quality of family sex. And even the third glass of wine is better to refuse, yes.

14 What in youth were more like fantasies about sex has turned into knowledge about what we want to get and how to do it.

And you perfectly understand what your husband means when he says: “I understand what has changed. When I was 20 years old, I didn’t know how to make barbecue, but I believed that being able to was very cool. I looked for different options for marinades, read advice, cooked it in different ways. Because barbecue with friends in the country is a symbol of the “right” vacation! And now I know how to make the coolest barbecue, I know how and love to do it. From a vague "adult" symbol, sex has become a real pleasure.

15 We know how to please a loved one, and he knows how to act to please you.

It may seem boring to some – but for both of you, this is an opportunity to relax and just have fun.

16 Many Of Us Have Learned What Bad Sex Is

Or boring sex, or sex, instead of which we would have been better off vacuuming the apartment once again. And from this they began to appreciate good sex even more.

17 We Are No Longer Tempted To Fake Orgasms

Or pretend we’re fine. We don’t try "for him", and you can just stop, say: "Let’s continue tomorrow, huh?" – hug and fall asleep.

18 And Strive For A Vaginal Orgasm At Any Cost

Moreover, we have read a dozen popular science articles, but have not found out whether it exists at all – this vaginal orgasm. Many scientists tend to consider vaginal orgasm clitoral – more precisely, its echoes.

19 We love our pets very much, but we decided to ban them from sleeping in our bed.

Although, of course, they create a very special atmosphere of sweetness and tenderness, and also help to make peace if we suddenly quarreled. Get out of bed, we have other plans!

20 After much hesitation, we finally decided to go on vacation without children

At least once a year, at least for three days. We don’t need the beach or the sights – we need time to wallow in the room, cuddle, have sex, go out on the balcony naked and live off schedule.

21 Our body has ceased to be a source of complexes

We fell in love with it – largely thanks to her husband, in whom it causes constant admiration. Loved our imperfect hips, and our c-section-scarred stomach with stretch marks, and our breasts that fed our children. Beauty and truth is in the eye of the beholder, but, in addition, now we know for sure that not only tanned models and muscular handsome men are engaged in sex, but the most ordinary people. And the changed body of the husband causes us the same passion as many years ago.

22 We have learned to appreciate the holidays

We have been deprived for many years of spontaneous sex, which women’s magazines so ardently recommend, "to freshen up relationships." And the opportunity to walk around the house naked or in lace, to moan loudly or laugh merrily after: because the children, or one of us, is working late again. Remember how great it was to get your parents’ apartment for the night? Now we know what can be much cooler than this – when our children leave for the night, for holidays, for the weekend, but at least for one evening!

23 We Found Out That Sex Isn’t Just Sex

This is a deep and tender relationship, this is a good mood. Understanding that we feel good with each other always, every day is the best aphrodisiac.

24 Unfortunately, we also realized that no amount of the best spiritual qualities and tender friendship can save a relationship in which there is no sex.

Or those where there is no fire in sex.

25 We have learned that the clitoris is the most sensitive part of our body.

And that it has about 8,000 nerve endings, and there is no benefit in this – this is just for our pleasure. It also expands to 4 times its original size.

26 We found out from our own experience that gadgets harm sex

And do not take your smartphone and tablet to bed with you if we want to continue the evening. Although we laugh in disbelief at the news that couples who have a TV in the bedroom, on average, have sex twice as often!

27 We no longer discuss our sex life with girlfriends

Because it is part of our life, our intimacy with our husband, our secret and our joy.

28 And finally, this is this: after we celebrate the golden wedding, our sex life will not end

Yes, studies have shown that couples who have celebrated 50 years of marriage have increased sexual activity. Take off your favorite warm pajamas, dear, I’m waiting for you!